Insecure men will never put themselves into any situation where they could appear vulnerable.

Normal guys get affected by dating rejection or the fear of dating rejection but are not afraid to talk about it or share their feelings without the fear of being judged.

A few hallmarks of the insecure game player. (These are common scenarios from the dating sites.)

He can only chat during the day.

Unless he’s retired, if he’s only ever online during the day, he’ll probably be at work.

You really don’t want to be chatting to guys at work.

It’s very common for players to be boasting to their work colleagues and showing them your messages.

They just want to impress their mates and be Jack the lad.

These are also the guys that don’t turn up for the date because they’re otherwise taken, or too insecure to meet you face to face, and have no intention of showing.

They’re also unlikely to let you know – it’s all about them, remember.

I’m sure you’ve much better things to do with your time than interact with someone like that!

Another possibility with the daytime caller is that he’s already married or with a girlfriend and it’s not safe for him to be chatting online at home.

He suddenly disappears while chatting at night.

You’ve trusted him enough to connect with him on messenger or in a chat room and suddenly he clicks off, just disappears and doesn’t re-appear until the next day with a story that he lost his internet connection or whatever.

Maybe he heard his wife or girlfriend coming up the stairs (or his mum lol) when he’d told her he had work to do online.

You’ve got to ask yourself the question, “Who walked into the room he was in?

What’s he not meant to be doing?”.

Sudden silence.

Maybe you’ve been communicating with a guy and all of a sudden he drops off the radar only to reappear days or weeks later with some feeble excuse. Let him go.

He won’t tell you he’s been playing the field and thought the grass was greener on the other side with that girl over there.

Or maybe his ex was in town, and they were doing some intimate reminiscing.

You’re worth more than that, much more.

Here’s a true story one of my clients told me many years ago.

A guy who had some of the hallmarks mentioned above kept drifting in and out of communication.

This should have been a red flag already, but the lady carried on as she always gave people benefit of the doubt.

He had already not turned up on an arranged date with this lady (benefit of the doubt remember)

He arranged to meet her, they arranged to go to the beach. So far so good!

On the way from picking her up to the beach he said that he had to pop in to his house to put his answerphone on as he was expecting a business client to call him hic!

He asked her if she wanted to come in for a second rather than wait in the car (obviously wanting to impress her with his nice house to massage his status)

She thought that it would be a good idea to see how he lived.

He showed her into the front room while he went upstairs to the office supposedly putting the answerphone on.

She was looking around and saw some photographs on the floor in the corner of the room then noticed that there was some slight patches on the walls in the front room where the pictures may have been.

Intrigued, she took a quick look at the photographs and saw a picture of a couple in the same room as she was standing about the same age as the guy.

It really looked like they lived there.

She heard him coming down the stairs and quickly turned the pictures back round.

Even though her head was racing she said nothing.

They went to the beach and of course he just had to come past his house again on the way back and obviously invited her in for a coffee.

She made her excuses not to which started him sulking but she made him take her back to her car.

A few days later she thought she would take a drive past this house again and lo and behold there was this couple coming out of the house into their car.

She was fuming!

She went up to the couple and asked them if they lived there and of course they said yes, and asked her why she wanted to know.

She told them the story.

Now there were 3 people fuming.

They had asked him to look after their house while they were on holiday because the guy worked with the chap and seemed trustworthy they gave him the key and asked him to keep an eye on it when passing on his way to work.

This date actually lived with his mother elsewhere.

She got in touch and told him that she had met a couple of his friends who had said that it was a shame that they weren’t in when the “dating couple” popped in on the way to the beach.

Phone went silent!

The guy who actually lived in the house spread the story all around work, the “date” was the butt of ridicule and eventually left.

Seems the girl had a close shave and also got her own back

The dating world can be pretty tough for women at the best of times, but when you’re taking the knock backs, no’s, and rejections to heart, it can soon become a nightmare.

As in daily life, anything we take personally is really difficult to deal with.

But it’s highly likely the guy isn’t taking the ups and downs personally at all.

Stuff happens in people’s lives: work stuff, family stuff, health stuff. You can’t assume you’re the reason for someone else’s behaviour.

Assumptions are dangerous things.

They’re invariably wrong!

Let’s consider some of the reasons why guys don’t get back in touch:

• He’s too busy
• He’s met up with an ex, quite by chance
• He’s found another girl he’s more drawn to, or with whom he’s got more in common

Maybe he had the time and/or the money or even the health to be able to meet initially but his circumstances have changed. Some guys feel too embarrassed to admit that they can’t now do what they promised when they first got in touch.  

I’ve heard of guys with children who’ve had to give up on dating because their ex found out and threatened to stop them seeing their kids if they dated someone else.

Maybe there are colour or cultural differences between you both and someone in his family intervened (heaven forbid his mother) to steer them away from the relationship. The fact is, you don’t know what’s going on in his life when you build your hopes up that this guy might be the one.

Playing the field is, of course, very common on the dating sites.

• Maybe he’s just a game player
• Maybe he’s just unavailable and not able to commit to any relationship  

Men may want to or think they can, but when push comes to shove, they just can’t commit to one woman.

A lot of guys on the Internet dating sites, particularly the free ones, are like kiddies in a sweetie shop with way too much choice of goodies.

• “Look at this girl.”
• “No, look at this one.”
• “OMG, look at this one.”

Their attention spans are more gnat than goldfish!   

It’ll take a while or the 12th of never before they’re committed!

But taking it personally?

If you’re going to take it personally when he doesn’t call you when he said he would or stops communicating altogether, you’ll be like a learner driver trying to do their first hill start.  

          Forward a bit, no stop— oops, going backwards.

Stalled.       Start again, there I go — no, false start.

You get the gist.

Now the dreaded self-judgement comes out to play:

• It must be me
• I’m not good enough
• Or tall, or pretty, or whatever enough

Or whatever track keeps going round and round in your head.

Then here come the unhelpful negative beliefs:

• That’s what always happens to me
• I’m just no good at this dating lark
• I’m just no good in love 
etc etc.

Most of us take any form or rejection personally.

We’re human beings. That’s what we do!  

Then we find something to cling on to as a justifiable reason to beat up on ourselves!

It’s really beneficial to try and take some of this stuff less personally.

Not least because you’re potentially putting yourself out there and much more open for rejection.  

          Some you win. 

          Some you don’t.

          Next!

 That type of attitude is much easier on the emotions in dating.

Rejection is just a part of everyday life.

But in the dating world even tiny things that wouldn’t normally bother you seem to be right up there in front of your face.

Again, it’s not personal.

A profile isn’t much to go on. It may not even be honest.

A profile doesn’t tell you what’s really going on in a man’s life. It certainly won’t tell you what his fears and insecurities are. It’s the rare man who reveals his vulnerabilities in public!

You don’t even know who the guy really is in real life. There may only be an element of truth in there to go on. And remember, whatever is there will only be his best side!

I know it seems really strange when a guy who was all over you like a rash in the beginning suddenly shuts you out.

One week he’s sending you lovey-dovey messages a couple or more times a day, chatting late into the night on messenger, maybe even meeting up and starting to make plans for the future – then nothing.

One minute he’s filling up your inbox and the next minute you’re refreshing the dating site thinking that it must be down.

Maybe you had to beat him back with a big stick but now he won’t even return your calls.

If you’re going,  

          “What did I do wrong?”

          “What did I say?”

           “Maybe my mother was right, no man will want me.” Blah blah.

Know that this self-judgement, what you’re feeling because he doesn’t seem to want you now, is part of a long running story that goes way back, deep into your childhood.  

As children we soak up criticisms and put-downs like sponges and they erode our fragile self worth and made us feel “less than” about ourselves.

It’s a really good idea to soften how you feel about yourself so that you can let go of attracting the game players or the non-committal men.

Check in:  

• To discover if there’s a part of you that’s not fully congruent with committing to any man again for whatever reason.
• To look for any repeating patterns in past relationships.

Have the same stories been repeating for a while now?

Can you see similarities between the behaviour of your ex and the behavior of the guys you’re attracting?

Because the truth is:  

Nature always gives us another opportunity to heal our past pain. 

Now that’s a real bummer and, of course, we don’t want this to keep happening, BUT until we resolve or at the very least soften how we feel about this stuff then it is going to keep happening.

Nature doesn’t take any prisoners, and that’s just how it is.

Remember when your mother said, “Eat your vegetables, they’re good for you”? Nature does it’s own version. And that’s not to be taken personally either!

Do the best you can to be gentle on yourself.

Look for any repeating patterns going on in your dating.

Keep going back to the young origins of your self-judgements.

Check in:  

• How do you feel?
• How does his behaviour make you feel?
• Why is it, do you think, that you’re taking knock backs personally?

Even go back to the first boy who ever left you for another girl, the one who rejected you. He may even be your first true love, the one who broke your heart.

Don’t be fooled into thinking, 

“Well that was so long ago, it couldn’t possibly be affecting me now in the present tense.”

Human beings are too darned good at pushing down emotional pain. Sometimes we do it for life!

Maybe your dad walked out on your mum and you took it personally that, “My daddy didn’t love me.”

Don’t underestimate the importance of looking at the long catalogue of stories in our lives that are getting re-triggered in the present tense.

Different people    Different circumstances   Same old stuff

That stuff is what can be making you feel “less than” in some way, jilted, let down, left, rejected, not wanted.

Sometimes a man’s absence will make neither rhyme nor reason. The important thing is to be able to shrug your shoulders and deal with any of the criticisms and judgements that your past stories are dredging up to haunt you.

Acknowledge and honour those parts of you that feel “less than”. But don’t forget to acknowledge and honour the parts of you that feel good!

I can promise you that you are much more worthy than you could possibly imagine, and certainly worthy of much better treatment than the behaviour you’ve allowed yourself to feel bad about.

• Is there anyone in your life right now who you don’t want to see?
• Is there anyone you’re in any sort of conflict with?
• Can you think of anything or anyone you’re pushing away – “We don’t talk to that side of the family, so I can’t speak to her.”
• Are you in a situation you resent?
• Do you have a sense of injustice about anything?
• Are you experiencing any discord at all in your life – at work maybe?

We have to have closed doors somewhere in our life for doors to others to be
closed on us.

When we’re pushing anything or anyone away there is no space left
energetically for a new person to come in.

Resisting feeling ANY “negative” emotions or being unable to accept any situation in life that’s not going your way will block the flow of new people and situations coming into your life.

Holding any sort of grudge about anything or anyone is like living in a house and wanting to see a beautiful view outside the window but actually pulling the shutters down.

What’s going on with us energetically is SO important, and never more so than when we want to get into the “love attraction” zone which is an expansive “open energy”.

Resistance to “feeling” what you don’t want to feel, will put a wall up between you and that good guy.

And ANY blocked energy in your life will affect EVERY area of your life.

I really want to help you deal with any resistance you might be experiencing.

Our circumstances tell us where we are, and what’s going on. To change our circumstances we have to go inside and let some of this old stuff go to instigate the change we want in our life.

So let’s go inside together and look at what might need to change.

Resentments

Check in with yourself and see if there are any areas of your life where you’re pushing people away or putting the walls up energetically or physically to keep people at a distance.

If you find any resentment anywhere in your story, deal with that ASAP. It’s a BIG problem for everyone!

There’s an old saying in Alcoholics Anonymous: “Resentment is the number one offender in pushing someone back to a drink.”

Resentment eats away at people and makes them bitter.

Not a good place to be when you want to be in the open expansive energy of the “love attraction” zone.

How Are You Managing Your Emotions?

We’re emotional human beings. We’re not meant to feel happy or sad or feel love or any other emotion ALL the time. There’s light and there’s darkness, this is nature and everything in nature is moving.

The very word emotion means “energy in motion.” Emotions should be passing through (flowing) but the problem with human beings is that instead of allowing the emotion to flow, we resist feeling it and push it down.

Sometimes we even fear being overwhelmed by the emotion if we allow ourselves to feel it.

Do you judge negative emotions as bad things that have to be repressed?

Are you resisting your own feelings and emotions?

Over the years, I’ve heard many clients say they have this fear that if they don’t suppress/resist this “negative” feeling or emotion, they’re in danger of falling into a big dark tunnel. They fear they won’t be able to get back out,
fear they’ll go under.

It’s like trying to keep a lid on something there shouldn’t be a lid on.

Resisting or pushing down emotions causes us problems:

• we feel pain
  all resistance and suppression is pain
• our energy stops flowing in the way that is good for us
  our energy, like that of the Earth itself, is meant to be in motion

Whenever you feel the need to resist feeling any emotions at any time I want
you to check in and ask yourself these questions:

• “What just changed at a practical level before my feelings changed?
  Who or what was the trigger that changed how I feel?”

• “Who did I speak to, who did I hear from (or not).
• Was it something said or unsaid?”

Even a look from someone could be a trigger, even the tone of someone’s
voice.

Or…

• Was it a text?
• A phone call?

Even the sound of your ringtone could be a trigger

• Was it a message, a Facebook post etc?
• What did I hear?

Was it someone in person or on the radio/TV or internet?

• What did I witness?
• What did I see?
• What did I taste or smell?

Something has to change for our feelings to change for they are incapable of doing so by their own volition.

Check in by taking little steps backwards. Be your own crime scene detective to find out what just changed before your feelings or emotions changed.

Sometimes it’s glaringly obvious, but more often it’s so subtle it’s hard to
believe it could be that!

This is because we get triggered in the sub-conscious mind (because of our past memories) beneath our
conscious awareness.

But the good news in this is that when we join up the dots connecting the circumstantial change with the feeling then the “negative” feeling will subside. You might want a little pick-me-up after the revelation, so just find something that makes you feel good in the moment to give yourself a boost – anything or anyone you can appreciate.

Once you connect with the circumstantial change that just happened, you may discover you have to let something go that someone said or did.

Try to reframe whatever it was in a more gentle way to let it go more easily.

Ask yourself the question,

“Is this really so important in the greater scheme of things or have I just taken something too personally that wasn’t meant that way?”

Maybe it was an ex in the picture. That’s an easy way to get triggered, especially if he has found someone new and you haven’t as yet.

Trust that it’s the resistance to feeling how we feel that keeps us stuck in more and more resistant energy.

It’s the resistance that stops the flow of everything that’s good in your life (and in your love life).

Here’s a quick little awareness exercise that will help you to soften any “negative” feelings. 30 seconds may be enough;

Breathe in and out as slowly and as comfortably as you can while you observe the feeling and track where it is in your body. If it moves then just continue to focus on your breathing and follow the feeling in your body until it subsides.

If you’re visual, you could notice any colours, patterns, or shapes as you’re observing and follow them as they change.

Should the negative feeling come back just repeat this exercise as often as you feel the need.

But please also be aware that sometimes these feelings in our body may be trying to nudge us that a decision we are about to make about someone or something, is not quite right, or the timing isn’t right. When in doubt about making any decision, take smaller steps.

Any time you’re really in doubt, maybe no decision is the best decision to take right now!

Dealing with Fear

After the word “change”, expect fear to come knocking on the door! Whenever we have any upcoming change in our life, especially if it’s not of our own making, fear can appear very quickly.

Even as you make a decision to change or you find yourself in a situation where change is being imposed on you, ask yourself the question, “I wonder how long it’s going to take for fear to come knocking on the door? It will probably arrive quicker than a Domino’s pizza delivery.”

Acknowledge and honour and work through the fear as you see fit but without resisting or pushing the feelings down.

Remind yourself that it’s just a normal part of change:

Talk to your fear as you would a small child.

• Make fear your best friend.
• Communicate with it often.
• Remember it’s trying to serve you and keep you safe.
• The more you try to ignore, resist or push down fear, the louder it will
  scream.

Fear of Fear

For many of us, negative past experiences make our fear response a bit trigger happy

And then we end up fearing the fear, as if the fear is the bearer of bad news that must be feared like an omen.

It’s the resistance to feeling how we feel that causes the problem not the fear itself.

Call out the fear,

“Hello my old friend, how are you doing? I didn’t expect you back quite so soon. But thank you for being here. I think I’ve got a handle on the situation for now.”

“I sure appreciate your concern but things are working out okay right now. It’s good to know you have my back if I miss anything.

We can do this together.”

Sound strange?

You bet it does, but I have no doubt that resisting or pushing down the fear is
not working in the way you’d like it to.

The Danger of Suppressing How We Feel

We’ve got so used to suppressing how we feel that it’s almost become a national disease. You don’t have to look far to witness resistance to feeling the way we do or suppressing how we feel.

Have a look in your own life. How are you numbing your pain? With;

• Certain foodstuffs, drinks, cigarettes?
• Busyness, overwork?
• Drama – do you attract or create it?
• Self-abuse in any form, be that mental, emotional or physical, with substances?
• Playing the blame game?
• Being the perpetual student at the expense of your relationships?
• Staying in victim mode?
• Sex, shopping, gambling?

The list goes on & on.

Now take a compassionate look around you. I’m sure it won’t take you long to spot other people who are stuck in suppression. People in suppression are up to their tolerance level, and just have to numb out the pain by any means.

It takes a lot of courage sometimes to start acknowledging the suppression and the fear of being overwhelmed.

But acknowledgement is the first step in letting some of it go, and I can promise you that the more you manage to let go of any resistance whatsoever in your life, the closer (& quicker) that new guy will come to you.

Energetically, the presence of resistance is like talking to someone who puts their hands up in front of your face and says,

“I don’t want to hear anything that you say.”

This is the ultimate resistance and this is what we do to ourselves in subtle or big ways. But even the subtle amounts add up over time.

You may be saying by now, well, Bill, I just want that guy, I don’t want to have to look at any of this nonsense.

Good luck with that. Let me know how much longer you are willing to wait.

Letting the resistance go is how to open the door for your new guy to come through.

This is it! This is the quick way.

Make some breathing space for the energy to flow!

You don’t have to change everything. You just have to let go of some of the resistance.

You’ve already set your intention. He’s already waiting. You just have to let go of some of the stuck energy to let him in.

And if you’d like more of a helping hand, all the tools you need are here waiting for you to dive in deeper to let this old resistance pain go once and for all.

Surely YOU deserve better!

Now you’re probably asking yourself, what planet is he on?

What do you mean, “downside?”

I don’t get it. There is no “downside!”

I just want to meet a new guy and fall in love. How simple is that?

How can there be a “downside?”

Here’s the thing, a whole host of unconscious fears (and a few conscious ones) about the “downside” of meeting that special man could be blocking you from finding love every single time!

There can be a part of us that doesn’t want to lose our freedom, a part of us that just wants to stay single, loves playing the field, loves that buzz, the chase, being chased.

Maybe you only feel good when guys want you.

Maybe getting lots of messages on dating sites makes you feel wanted.

The unconscious reasons why you can’t meet that guy or truly commit or settle down, are usually very compelling and unless you are aware of them they’re going to do a number on you.

I can’t impress on you enough that finding these blocks and letting them go is an essential key to your dating success, and no amount of dating advice will ever find you Mr Right in a shorter time.

Let’s look at some of the most common UNCONSCIOUS blocks to finding that special someone. Do any of these resonate with you?

There’s still an ex in your life who you’re not really over yet.

Are you still hanging on in there hoping that no matter how badly he treated you he’s miraculously going to come to his senses and realise that he can’t possibly live without you?

Maybe you’re sat waiting by the phone that never rings.

Maybe there was a great spark between you, or the best sex you ever had?

Maybe you thought that HE was the one!

Financial issues.

Maybe there’s a jealous ex in the mix and he swore that if you ever went out with any other man, let alone let him move in, he would stop paying his half of the mortgage or any other financial agreement.

Maybe his threats extended to withholding money and affection to the children.

You’re hoping for promotion at work.

Maybe you feel that a new guy will just hold you back from achieving your career aspirations. Maybe your work involves travel. How would a new man cope with that?

Or maybe you want to be free to travel more on your own? Maybe an ex didn’t like to travel and you fear ending up in that situation again.

You really enjoy the company of female friends.

Maybe an ex sulked through his insecurities, playing the jealous card every time you went out with your girlfriends, and you’re unconsciously wondering whether being with another man is worth the hassle?

Maybe you feel deep down that any new man would get in the way of friendships that are important to you that you don’t want to lose. And, of course, a guy wouldn’t understand how important it is for you to go out with the girls at least once a week & more.

Is a health issue holding you back from dating?

Sometimes even minor health or body image issues cause a woman to be anxious about being intimate with a guy. You’ll find practical solutions for this one in the membership area of my website (details below).

Heaven forbid you may have lost a partner through an accident or illness.       

Whilst you feel you’re ready to be with someone else, part of you doesn’t believe that anyone else could ever take his place, and absolutely they couldn’t – things would be very different. But the question is, do you want another man to love?

You have a parent or a child that you feel needs you to be there for them.

Women are the natural nurturers of the world but sometimes the caring role can turn into being the sacrificial lamb for others where your needs or desires are put to one side.

You may even get resentful if your sacrifices are not appreciated or others in the family are not pulling their weight.

You may feel that if a new guy were to come along he wouldn’t understand your need to be there as a carer for family members and that your role would interfere with a new relationship.

He may actually become a wonderful help to you and become part of the family – as happened in the case of a client of mine who leapt in to share the load with his new girlfriend.

Are you a lady with one or two (or more) sons (and no daughters)

At a biological level a woman’s sons are her ‘partners’ and there’s not much room for any other guy as her boys will always come first.

At the extreme, she will drop everything (including a date) when her sons (no matter what age they are) call her up and say they need her.

If this is you, you may come over very protective and get peed off with me saying this.

But I am only speaking in a general way through personal observation working with thousands of ladies over the years and speaking with female friends in this situation.

Do you want to experience that beautiful feeling of being in love again?

Maybe you fear

• ending up in an abusive relationship again, or
• being with another insecure guy who is jealous of your every move.

Maybe you feel you don’t deserve love

• because of something that happened in the past, or
• because you’ve become addicted to the heartache of the fruitless attempts to find love online – if you’re sick of all the messages from time wasters and plonkers but keep struggling on anyway, maybe you need to look at that one!

Maybe the brutal truth is that you simply don’t feel good enough about yourself.

This is not a good one to be stuck in because it’s really challenging to get what we want if we don’t feel good enough or don’t believe that we deserve it.

Every human being on the planet craves and deserves to be loved and accepted and of course that means YOU!

Have a long hard look for yourself and see if any of the mentioned (or any other) blocks are getting in your way to love.

By letting any of these blocks go you’ll start to put the “law of love attraction” to work FOR YOU!

Whether you believe that you deserve love or not, I am here to tell you that you do!

But sometimes we are trying to wade through stuck energy.

And if you have ANY stuck energy at the physical/mental/emotional/vibrational level, then you are well and truly stuck. Sometimes for good!

Spinsterhood here you come.

I really want to help you bring these walls down so that you can be “free” to attract and meet that new guy, in the shortest possible time without having to listen to any more of the old dating advice.

Look back in your past story and see where this stuff comes from & if you can, “soften” how you feel about it enough so that you can get yourself in that vibrational place where this dating game becomes easy and fun.

Rather than a case of wading through the swamps trying to avoid the alligators, aka plonkers, time wasters & users on the dating sites and offline.

One of my personal issues is about wasting time. I really hate wasting time and because this is so important to me I am NEVER going to waste your time with dating advice.

I’m only going to be sharing hard earned secrets at the vibrational/mental/emotional level so that YOU can get who and what you want in the shortest possible time AND have more fun dating than you ever had before, while feeling better about yourself than you may have ever done.

And the bonus of coming into the 21st century to make changes in how you feel, is that not only will you find your dating much more fun (enjoy it while you can as it may be short lived when you meet that new man).

But ALL your relationships will flow in a way that will pleasantly surprise you, and you will find it so much easier to connect and communicate with ANYONE!

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The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

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Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

I will help you get these four right, and I guarantee you, when you understand these four, YOU will NEVER have to struggle in ANY relationship with ANYONE ever again.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries.

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The i’m not enough story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth.

Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships AND in life.

… and much much more.

3.. Health

Specifically, how our relationship issues affect our health

(and they do in really specific ways).

And more importantly what we can do at the practical level to resolve them.

This is where you will find an absolute gold mine of knowledge (most of which you will probably never have never heard before) along with my own personal experience of successfully working with thousands of men, women and children with health issues over the last 15 years and more.

And what’s more, all of this costs around the same as some of the old dating advice membership sites.

If you have ANY health issues or body image issues that hold you back from feeling confident in meeting your new man, you will find all the solutions here in this health section.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, feeling pushed out, water retention, depression, separation/skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course, I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

Click on The Link Below To Find Out More

https://datinginsidesecrets.com/go

I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

Trust is one of the 4 main biggies in dating & relationships.

There’s communication, trust, respect & passion, and if either of those are missing then I can guarantee there is a problem in the relationship.

Passion is optional of course as long as both people feel the same way.

Trust is one of our biggest issues in relationships.

 The fear of not being able to trust a fellow human has been in our psyche forever. If our early ancestors suffered a betrayal it could mean death.

Being able to trust another person is never more important than when it comes to your love partner – actual or potential. Most women need to be able to trust their man to feel safe in a relationship.

How can there be communication, respect and passion without trust?

If trust breaks down then there is no honest communication, and if there’s no honest communication, then there’s no trust.

And all it takes to have a potential trust issue is for one guy in your past to have betrayed you.

If betrayal has been a repeat pattern for you, even all the way back to your parents/family/teachers/church etc. then we have a problem Houston!

Just as an exercise, have a look back through your own life.

How many times has someone betrayed your trust?

How many different people have betrayed your trust, especially men?

Maybe you found out your ex was lying to you, or worse, cheating?

Maybe you still hear your mother’s words rattling around in your head:

• You can’t trust any man!
• Men will use you, abuse you,
• Men are only after one thing etc etc.

Have a good look back, because our past story dictates how safe we feel in the present tense to trust anyone let alone be intimate with a new guy!

Is your trust antenna on hyper alert?

Are you always on full alert looking for the minutest negative sign?

• I don’t like his eyes,
• I don’t like his smile,
• I don’t trust this or that about him,
• I don’t like the sound of his voice.

If this is you, then it’s going to be really challenging to attract and meet a new man because you are ALWAYS going to be able to find any reason NOT to trust ANY guy.

Have a listen to your own self-judgement to check in with how you feel about trust.

Does your self-talk go something like this?

• I can’t believe I let that guy in,
• Why didn’t I see that one coming?
• How could I have been so stupid to trust him?
• I can’t believe I let him do that to me, it’s just like all the other times, I always attract men who betray my trust etc etc.

Eventually, a subtle, invisible wall goes up and you end up not being able to trust anyone, let alone another man you don’t know.

You are now heading towards spinsterhood.

And I guess you wouldn’t be here if you wanted to be in spinsterhood!

I can promise you that even though you can’t see it, that wall is there between you and the man you’re seeking – energetically and vibrationally – otherwise that guy would have shown up a long time ago.

It’s like trying to get a good WiFi signal through thick walls, you may get some connection now and again but it is very slow and intermittent.

But it doesn’t have to be like this!

Imagine a world where each of us took full responsibility for how we felt at all times. There’d be no blame, no criticism, and no judgement – how awesome would that be?

Utopia, yes!

But whilst we can’t change the whole world for we can’t make other people play the game, no one likes anyone telling them what to do – we can change our world by changing how we feel from the inside out, and lead by example.

The key to attracting a GOOD guy, a guy that you truly deserve, is to acknowledge and honour how you feel and heal those issues dumped on you by people in the past.

If life has knocked the stuffing out of your ability to trust, and whether anyone knows about your past trust issues or not, the problem now is the unconscious energy you’ll be sending out. This is the energy that creates that blocking wall.

You’ll end up losing trust in yourself, and in your own senses when past patterns repeat, and you need to be able to trust your own intuition.

As a woman, you already have stunning intuitive/feeling senses within you.

Those natural warning bells are going to come up anyway because you are a sensitive woman, and you have to feel safe at all times.

Some women would say, “It just doesn’t feel right in my gut,” and, of course, if this is the case you absolutely want to honour those feelings. The last thing you want to do is go out with any man that you don’t feel safe with.

But for the moment, the important thing is to become Aware, then Acknowledge and Heal any past trust/betrayal issues, BEFORE you even start looking for a new man.

Then …

• you’ll know that you can trust your gut when it’s telling you something’s not right because your intuitive signals will be so much clearer,
• your “love attraction” signal will be flowing on full power at all times, and..
• that invisible wall will tumble down so he can appear and you can both connect.

If you are already an “Inside Dater” of www.datinginsidesecrets.com you’ll already be on the fast track to clearing the past “stuff” that keeps coming up to the surface and blocking you from meeting that man.

How free would that make you feel – to be back to your natural human state where you can trust your own senses and take small steps in the direction that feels right to you at any particular moment in time.

If you’re in that space where dating seems hard going and you suspect past issues (everyone has them by the way) are holding you back, you’ll find this is a genuine opportunity to let go of your past and stop it eating you up.

I really want to help you get the most benefit that you possibly can and to get you in the place to meet that new man in the easiest way and shortest possible time – that’s why I have invested a ton of my time so that I am able to lead you step by step.

Where becoming an “Inside Dater” is exclusively for women!

You might be wondering, why has a man has set up a site exclusively for women!

Having worked with thousands of men, women, and children over the years, I’ve noticed that most men are much slower to deal with their own stuff than women, and are much more resistant to doing the work to change how they feel.

Usually the men begrudgingly do the work, but for themselves.

Women on the other hand, are more willing to do the work that benefits themselves AND the other people around them.

Women truly are the ones to make the changes in the world!

Of course, you’re biased and agree with this, but I’m simply sharing the truth of my experience. This is why I work specifically with women nowadays.

Life and dating are truly an inside job, and I want you to honour your part in all of this and for having the courage to change how you feel for yourself and for others – even if all you do is read this blog post and check in if any past betrayals are sabotaging your love life now.

Trust is also an inside job, and you can’t feel safe enough to trust yourself and your senses when you’re carrying around all the stories of hurt from the past, feeling as though they are happening in the present tense.

I would love you to connect and let me know the trust issues you’ve been struggling with or are willing (or able) to let go off to reclaim your freedom as a woman.

And again, if you want to take the fast track route where everything is laid out for you. Sharing with YOU all the secrets that I have learned over the last 20 years and more.

I have made everything as easy as possible via Video, Mp3 & written word to lead you to the end result that you really want

The man of your dreams

I look forward to meeting you on the other side to witness YOUR personal transformation

Take the opportunity at your fingertips to change how you feel about YOU and attract the man of your dreams without wasting any more valuable time.

Click on The Link Below to Find Out More

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon.

Bill x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

Is that how you feel? Is that how it seems?

I recognise that there may be a part of you that believes there is no one out there for you.

If so, there will be good reasons why you feel this way and I acknowledge and honour how you feel.

But when you do feel this way, you are right, there is no one out there for you, because

whatever we believe is true!

And the longer we believe it the more entrenched the belief becomes.

This is why it’s really important to change how we feel about what we DON’T want.

For the more we focus on the negative in our life and tell ourselves the same old story:

• There’s no one out there for me.
• I don’t know how it works for other people.
• There are no decent single men in this town etc.

The longer we stay stuck.

Maybe you can say, “There are no decent men,” in a small village but you really can’t say that in a town and certainly not in a city with a population of many thousands of singles.

The truth is, there are always single men in your area (although there may be other reasons why you don’t want to hook up with someone local, but that’s another story).

If you don’t believe this, you’re stuck in a negative belief that’s a self-fulfilling prophecy – until you change it.

Changing our beliefs

We have to be in an expansive energetic state to open the door to what we really want.

Living in small village energy, even though it’s cute for some folks who have got to that point in their life where they want to settle down, is absolutely useless for a single girl who is seeking love.

No one leaves a town or a city looking for more opportunity in a village.

There are no free men when you’re stuck in that insular, contracted slow paced energy.

Fast expansive energy is the feeling you want, for this is the place of opportunity. Yes, to meet that man!

Now you will hear lots of single girls in large towns and cities saying that there are no good men out there for them.

Even though in their frustration it certainly seems that way, this is utter nonsense!

Have a look back at your own “dating” experience and that of other girls around you. Have you all been telling and reinforcing the same story through your frustration?

Just so you know, I’m not picking on women here. I’ve heard the same story time and again from guys I’ve worked with over the years. And I tell them exactly the same

It’s massively important to acknowledge, honour, and deal with this negative belief, “There’s no one out there for me, no one wants me etc.”

I get it, I really understand these crippling negative beliefs.

I have had all these negative beliefs and had to deal with them all from the small to the big “I’m a worthless heap of you know what beliefs”

20 years alcoholic has a habit of destroying any good feelings someone has about themselves.

And it did a good number on mine.

But I don’t feel like that anymore, and I so want to help you feel better about yourself from the inside out.

It seems that the better I felt about myself and the more I acknowledged who and what was in my life, especially through appreciation, the better my life got, and the more nice people I attracted into my life.

The more we “open up” and “lean into life” the more our life opens up and gives us what we want.

Again, it’s massively important to honour and deal with these negative beliefs “there’s no one out there for me, no one wants me etc etc” if you want to meet your new man.

Personally I use EFT (emotional freedom technique) with all my clients as I have never found a simpler, quicker, gentler way to resolve ANY negative beliefs that are holding you back in life.

And of course, I can help you so much more in letting go of these negative beliefs that hold you back from meeting the man of your dreams when you become an “Inside dater”

(More about the massive benefits of this below)

But you can also do a lot to help yourself by becoming aware of the power of energy

To benefit from the “law of love attraction” we have to be able to tap into the expansive energy.

This is the key that most people either don’t know about or don’t use to full advantage.

Energy is energy and it can’t be selective. Like attracts like. These are universal laws.

You have to be able to get yourself into the expansive energy in ANY area of your life, and that will have positive expansive effects in EVERY area of your life.

If you open a door in one area of your life, this opens the door in EVERY area of your life.

Once you’re in that expansive energy, you’ll be shocked by how many opportunities present themselves to meet new people.

You just have to get yourself out there into the flow to reap the benefits of life and yes, find … that new man you’re looking for

Find any way you can to get into ANY expansive energy.

Look for any opportunity to meet and connect with ANY other people.

I cannot tell you how important this is!

Disconnection from other people closes the door to opportunity.

Also if you have any “discord” with anyone else, try and diminish how you feel about this. You don’t necessarily have to kiss and make up or forgive, but see if you can “soften” how you feel about it for now or get a new perspective on it.

Even if you have to forget dating for a couple of weeks, I would like you to try this out for yourself. Focus on just “connecting” with other people.

Even for a short period of time. Even if it’s someone serving you in a shop. Make an effort to connect with EVERYONE you meet.

Without expectations of them reciprocating of course

Arrange to meet old friends, family members you get on with. Start saying yes to invites instead of telling yourself that it’s ok to sit in front of the computer or TV every night.

I really feel that “dis-connection” is what robs us of our quality of life and sucks the vitality right out of us.

Life doesn’t come to us, we have to get out there and take it.

If need be go home from work, have a little siesta, before getting out and connecting with other people at least a couple of times a week.

Now please don’t tell me that there is nowhere to go.

What about that salsa dance you’ve been meaning to learn forever? There’s no need to take a dancing partner with you unless you want to go with a friend, of course.

What about reviving old hobbies, or taking up a new interest or polishing a skill, cooking classes etc.

The purpose here is not to meet that dream man (though you might).

Your intention is to get into the expansive energy where opportunities abound!

Please let me know of any insights, or changes you’ve instigated to get into the expansive energy and more importantly, any feelings about being much more open to the possibility of creating new opportunity in your own life.

Yes, meeting that new man for one

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But if you are looking for even more benefit than I can offer here, then I would love you to join me in the community of  “Inside Daters.”

Where YOU will take the fast track to meeting the man of your dreams.

Where you can feast on an abundance of personal “practical” videos from myself in the 3 most important areas of dating …

Dating – Relationships & Health

Working with thousands of people over the last 15 years and more I have learned that it’s MASSIVELY

important as human beings that we feel as though we belong.

You are literally just a mouse click away from being able to benefit from the life changing content in

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

1.. Dating

How to attract a GOOD MAN in the shortest possible time.

And by taking the simple steps that I have laid out for you in a series of videos, I will also help you become the fun, confident woman who’s irresistible to any man!

How much fun will your dating be then

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Dating section …

The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

And many many more …

2.. Relationships

Once you have your good man, this part of the membership area will help you make sure that you keep him

Remember your old issues haven’t gone away, they will be waiting to come to the surface at the first opportunity.

I take you by the hand to resolve any of those past issues that could sabotage your new relationship in this section.

As well as helping you understand much more than you ever did before about the subtle art of communication in relationships.

For instance, I will help you understand the 4 most important aspects in ANY “love” relationships.

These are …

Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

I will help you get these four right, and I guarantee you, when you understand these four, YOU will NEVER have to struggle in ANY relationship with ANYONE ever again.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries.

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The I’m not enough story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth.

Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships & in life.

… and many many more.

3.. Health

Specifically, how our relationship issues affect our health.

(and they do in really specific ways)

And more importantly what we can do at the practical level to resolve them.

This is where you will find an absolute gold mine of knowledge (most of which you will probably never have never heard before) along with my own personal experience of successfully working with thousands of men, women and children with health issues over the last 12 years and more.

And what’s more, all of this costs around the same as some of the old dating advice membership sites.

If you have ANY health issues or body image issues that hold you back from feeling confident in meeting your new man, you will find all the solutions here in this health section

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, water retention, depression, skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course,  I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

Just Click on The Link Below To Find Out More

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

And I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

Now you feel as though people are looking at you as if you are a failure in relationships.

When we are stuck in the energy of feeling like a failure, in any shape or form, then it’s really hard to let that story go.

I want you to acknowledge where this “failure” story comes from. Where did this story originate, and  I want you to look outside dating for this.

Look in ANY area of your life where you felt like a failure or someone told you that you would never amount to anything, or you will never be as good as your sister, your brother, your mum, your dad or whoever.

Maybe an ex has been adding to that old, old story that you’re not as good as, heaven forbid an ex girlfriend of his.

Have a good look for the origin of this failure story, because we can transfer those failures to dating and keep adding to them in our relationships.

It almost becomes a justifiable reason to beat up on ourselves and human beings are really good at doing this of course. We’re really good at finding any excuse to beat up on ourselves or punish ourselves for any obscure reason.

It almost becomes like our default setting in life.

I’ve done it again! I’ve made a mess of it again! I’ve failed again! I’ve said the wrong thing, i’ve done the wrong thing and so it goes on.

So if you feel like a failure in your present life because you haven’t met that guy yet, I really want to help you “soften” how you feel about this.

Because if that’s how you feel about yourself, then of course this story will keep repeating. Then having even more dating experiences to make you feel like a failure.

Now you are “sending out” that unconscious “failure” energy and then you get stuck in that negative, destructive loop.

So have a look at where you feel like a failure in life, why you feel like a failure, and why you feel that other people are looking at you and judging you as if you are a failure in love.

This seems to be a bigger issue for women rather than men.

A woman’s identity is much more important to her than to a man.

A woman is also the natural carer, nurturer in relationships and in families and usually care more about what other women or her family think of her compared to men.

A man can be out there being the free spirit in dating and it’s almost like a badge of honour, but for women it’s a very different story indeed.

There is also more pressure on women to be “settled down” with a good man by a certain age etc etc.

So, who in your family or friends would you feel most judged by, or do you feel you are letting them down in some strange way because you are not with a good man at this time of your life.

Who is it that you least want to see when you are having a “bad dating day.”

Oh no! I don’t want to see aunt Ethel right now, or praying that they won’t ask you about your love life, or lack of, or what happened to that last man etc.

Feeling like a failure is a really tough deal in life, and I really get it.

I went through school the spotty, dyslexic dunce kid coming from the loveless, emotionally absent family background seemingly being told most days how stupid I was, at home and at school, and I would never make anything of my life.

The sad truth is that, none of this failure stuff is actually true.

You weren’t born feeling like a failure that’s for sure.

All of this stuff was dumped on you by your well meaning (or not so well meaning parents/teachers/peers) at the conscious AND the unconscious level.

It’s almost like the first part of life, we take on all this crud, and the second part of life, we’re desperately trying to dump it!

I want you to acknowledge and honour the parts of you that feel like a failure, and I can promise you. That there are very few people on the planet that don’t feel that they are failing or have failed in some way or another.

Maybe one area of their life they feel like a failure, (as in relationships) but not in their profession.

In some areas of our life, it can be easier to feel good, or at least better about yourself but when it comes to that man or lack of in dating, then the failure card can come out to play.

Or maybe you always seem to attract that certain type of man that doesn’t benefit you, attracting the non committal one, the one who cheats on you or heaven forbid, the abusive man, and of course another justifiable reason to beat up on yourself and say, I told you so.

I’m a failure in love.

Maybe you can even hear your mother/father/grandmothers critical words ringing in your ears. I told you, no man would ever love you!

Or maybe this has even become your self fulfilling prophecy because of the dysfunctional beliefs that you have taken on.

But no matter who dumped this “failure” crud on to you.

Especially in those first 6 years in life, where we take on our beliefs and perceptions, trying to make sense of our small world while trying to fit in and belong.

I so want you to know that the “crud” that they dumped on you, did NOT! belong to you. That was their stuff, the same stuff that was dumped on them, and then they passed it on to you like a destructive family heirloom to be handed down!

So for now, how about getting a pen and paper and set some reflection time aside for yourself.

Grab a drink of choice and start to put some names to paper. Who were the perpetrators in your early life who made you feel like a failure. Who still does?

When we are stuck in this energy sapping, repetitive story of, feeling like a failure, I’ve failed, I’m failing, I just can’t get this love/dating thing right.

I feel like a failure because I am still single, i’m no good in relationships, look how many times I’ve fallen for the wrong guy, I obviously don’t deserve a good man  etc etc.

Then what happens is that we might as well put the shutters up and stay home, because that is what is happening “energetically” and their isn’t much “law of love attraction” signal getting sent out there.

Even Einstein said, all we are is energy!

But the good news is that once we become aware of the truth of the origins of the “failure” story, then we can honour ourself enough to “soften” how we feel about that old, old story and give ourselves a break.

Because the truth is, it is not who you are, it’s only how you were made to feel about you!

And I promise you, how you feel about you CAN be changed!

Always bear in mind that those early people in your life who made you feel less than about yourself were struggling with their own pain.

The truth is, that when people are in pain, then they can only give out pain. That’s all they have to give.

Judgmental, critical people tell you more about themselves by their judgement and criticism, than it says about you.

Time to honour who you are, how far you have come, and your courage for carrying this pain for so long.

And now is as good a time as any to start letting it go, piece by piece.

Because whether you believe that you are worth it or not, I can promise you that you are

Please connect and let me know what failure insights you have come across doing this reflection. AND what you are doing about it!

—————————–

But if you are looking for even more benefit than I can offer here, then I would love you to join me in the community of  “Inside Daters”

Where YOU will take the fast track to meeting the man of your dreams.

Where you can feast on an abundance of personal “practical” videos from myself in the 3 most important areas of dating …

Dating – Relationships & Healt

Working with thousands of people over the last 15 years and more I have learned that it’s MASSIVELY important as human beings that we feel as though we belong.

You are literally just a mouse click away from being able to benefit from the life changing content in

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

1.. Dating

How to attract a GOOD MAN in the shortest possible time.

And by taking the simple steps that I have laid out for you in a series of videos, I will also help you become the fun, confident woman who’s irresistible to any man!

How much fun will your dating be then

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Dating section …

The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

And many many more …

2.. Relationships

Once you have your good man, this part of the membership area will help you make sure that you keep him

Remember your old issues haven’t gone away, they will be waiting to come to the surface at the first opportunity.

I take you by the hand to resolve any of those past issues that could sabotage your new relationship in this section.

As well as helping you understand much more than you ever did before about the subtle art of communication in relationships.

For instance, I will help you understand the 4 most important aspects in ANY “love” relationships.

These are …

Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

I will help you get these four right, and I guarantee you, when you understand these four, YOU will NEVER have to struggle in ANY relationship with ANYONE ever again.

How good would that be

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries,

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The “I’m not enough” story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth.

Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships & in life.

… and many many more.

3.. Health

Specifically, how our relationship issues affect our health.

(and they do in really specific ways)

And more importantly what we can do at the practical level to resolve them.

This is where you will find an absolute gold mine of knowledge (most of which you will probably never heard before) along with my own personal experience of successfully working with thousands of men, women and children with health issues over the last 12 years and more.

And what’s more, all of this costs around the same as some of the old dating advice membership sites.

If you have ANY health issues or body image issues that are holding you back from feeling confident in meeting your new man, you will find all the solutions here in this health section.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, feeling pushed out, water retention, depression, separation/skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course, I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

Click on The Link Below To Find Out More

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

I hear this more and more from ladies in their 40s upwards who had been married for most of their life, or maybe it’s been a long time since they have been in the dating scene.

Lots of women compare their first relationships and how they met guys back then, maybe through family and friends, at work, church, college, university, or through sports, hobbies, music, drama etc.

Back then, especially as we were growing up, we still lived in the local area and potentially knew a lot more people, but as we grow up people move away from their home town for various reasons and don’t tend to have such a big circle to draw on.

Back then when you were dating, I guess that most of your friends were single in the same situation and dating was just a normal part of life.

And of course for most of us in mid life, there was no internet dating back then, because there was no internet.

I know we didn’t even have a telephone in our family as I was growing up.

When people get married it is all too easy to lose touch with friends, especially after having children, then most folks become more family insular with most of their time taken up with being there for the children.

Later on after breaking up with your husband or last partner, you realise that you have a very small circle of available men to connect with.

You have to do something!

And then you hear of internet dating from one of your friends and with a bit of persuasion, you tiptoe into the realms of the unknown.

Now like anything new, this can be scary for the first time. Especially with the fear mongers recounting their last horror stories to you.

And of course, like anything in life, there are advantages and disadvantages and maybe you have found out a few of those already.

But there are disadvantages in the offline world as well. Most women that I speak with who are a little bit older, as well as some younger, feel really uncomfortable walking into a bar on their own or even with a female friend.

But if you did pluck up the courage to venture into the bar and if you did see a guy you liked the look of, the next problem is, until you introduce yourself and start a conversation, you don’t know anything about him.

Not all married men wear a ring for instance, most guys with girlfriends don’t wear a ring either. There could be lots of reasons when after an initial introduction and spending some time together, you truly wished you hadn’t.

Finding out the basics about a guy can be a slow process.

Sure you get to see him in 3D and not just a selfie picture, but it does take a bit of time to go through your mental check list while trying to look casual at the bar.

And of course at the end of the night if there was any sort of connection at all, and you wanted to see him again. There would have to be some form of exchange of personal details like, phone number, email, Facebook profile etc.

But you still don’t know a lot about him. Apart from your gut instinct. And can you trust your gut after the past failures in love?

You know that you never want to be exchanging details or even going out with any guy that you don’t trust or feel safe with for any reason. Period!

Online you have at least some of the relevant details to fill in your check list. Assuming there is some truth in his profile that is

Not to mention the past their sell by date pictures!

I heard of one guy in Glastonbury UK who went out on a date with a friend of mine who turned up on the first date with a tiny bar of cadburys chocolate and wearing a moustache.

Now, nothing wrong with that you may say, even though this guy had a clean upper lip on his profile picture.

Having a drink at the bar with him and pressing him on the mustache and lack of resemblance to the profile picture, this jerk finally admitted that the picture belonged to his better looking brother which of course is the reason why he thought it would be acceptable to use that one instead of his own.

She finished her drink, slipped the tiny bar of chocolate in her pocket and left him at the bar.

He tried to follow her out muttering that he didn’t know what the problem was and that she was overreacting.

As in life, anytime someone describes themselves, just take it with a pinch of salt, while also looking for the best in people.

Obviously everyone wants to show their best side when meeting someone new.

But a woman is much better than a man at using all her senses to know what’s right and what’s wrong. The problem sometimes comes in following through though.

For our own expectations and judgements can play havoc with our senses.

Now back to the fear that someone will judge you for meeting your new man on a dating site.

Which of course is none of their business in the first place, but we are all human beings and seem to care way too much what other people think of us.

Time moves on, and would we want to go back to the days of the old black and white TV’s, and no internet. The internet is truly a gift when we use it wisely.

Imagine if someone told you 50 years ago that you could sit anywhere in public, at home, on a train, a bus, and connect via your laptop/Ipad/tablet and communicate with anyone anywhere in the world (not to mention, meet your potential partner).

How awesome is this gift!

We couldn’t even have imagined how our life could be transformed.

And here we are with some folks looking at internet dating as if it is something to be shunned as if there is something wrong with it and the people who use it. How strange!

This fear of being judged by people who found out how you met your guy is easily solved. YOU don’t have to tell them anything!

If you arranged to have a first date at a cafe or pub, then from then on, to all intents and purposes. That is where you met your man.

Of course you can tell your trusted friends who have open minds in the 21st century that you met your guy through internet dating.

But to any of those judgmental folks, tell them what you want. It truly has nothing to do with them. Even if it’s family members!

But of course you also have to deal with how YOU feel about where you met this new guy.

Because if it is a big judgement thing for you, then it will also be for other people. But if you are comfortable with it, then there is no problem whatsoever.

You will also be hard pushed to not meet anyone in recent dating times, who has used internet dating or doesn’t know of anyone who met someone via internet dating.

You will also meet many couple who are more than happy letting you know that they met each other online. And they don’t even bat an eyelid when telling you.

The truth is when you can acknowledge yourself for being proactive to change your life for the better, then the less it will bother you what other people think.

Would you rather be alone and not wanting to be, or taking action and be open to the possibilities of meeting the man of your dreams.

There are always going to be judgmental people in the world. In fact, the world could do with a few less.

Bear in mind that when someone is judgmental about others, that tells you what they think of themselves. The more they judge themselves, the more they judge other people.

It can’t be otherwise. 

Or if you find yourself judging yourself a bit too harshly, you are going to end up judging other people.

You know what it’s like when you are having a kind “me” day and feeling good about yourself, then everyone else seems to be so much nicer and you start noticing nice qualities in them that you didn’t notice before.

Judgement is massive in society. It’s so insidious and seems to be woven into the fabric of western society. This gets handed down from family to family and it’s just a means of externalising their pain, to judge another human being.

Judgement is also a means of control.

You can control anyone through fear of judgment if you start them young enough.

Look around you to see how much judgment or fear of judgment there is in society, from the church, the government, police, courts, school, and of course in your family.

It’s perfectly understandable where all this stuff comes from being handed down through the centuries, and of course not so long ago if you were judged to be wrong/bad in any way you could be ex communicated from the church/village and sent out to starve.

So our job is to get out and stay out of the judgement pain as much as we possibly can or at the very least, soften any judgement that we feel on ourself and the judgement pain that was handed down to us as children to keep us under control.

As you may know, I am passionate about taking action as this is when all the magic happens in our life.

But only when we start IMPLEMENTING this knowledge rather than just reading it.

For without implementation, knowledge is useless.

Try this as a daily exercise for a week.

I want you to be the observer of how often you judge yourself. In any way large and small, every day.

Make a note, but without judging yourself for noticing yourself judging yourself

Just be the observer.

Now for the next week, I again want you to be the observer, now noticing everyone around you and how often they appear to judge you, themselves or anyone else.

This two week exercise will blow you away.

It is sad and humbling at the same time.

But also massively beneficial, to witness first hand how much vital energy is used up in punishing ourself and other people through judgement and blame rather than honouring our own judgement and letting other people be to live their own life.

I will take a guess that you will now look at fellow human beings with much more compassion than you ever did before. And hopefully yourself as well.

I truly want you to soften how you feel about this fear of being judged by other people by softening the judgement you have upon yourself.

This was all dumped on you in childhood by the way.

If you wanted to take the quick route to soften any self judgment of fear of being judged by others then I would love to be able to help you even more than I can here.

While becoming the best version of you that you possibly could be.

And honour yourself right now for being here.

Because I have never heard of anyone being judged for taking proactive action to improve their life.

And that includes you meeting the man of your dreams.

But if you are looking for even more benefit than I can offer here, then I would love you to join me as an   “Inside Dater”

Where YOU will take the fast track to meeting the man of your dreams.

In the membership area you can feast on an abundance of personal “practical” videos from myself in the 3 most important areas of dating …

Dating – Relationships & Health

Working with thousands of people over the last 15 years and more I have learned that it’s MASSIVELY important as human beings that we feel as though we belong.

You are literally just a mouse click away from being able to benefit from the life changing content in

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

1.. Dating

How to attract a GOOD MAN in the shortest possible time.

And by taking the simple steps that I have laid out for you in a series of videos, I will also help you become the fun, confident woman who’s irresistible to any man!

How much fun will your dating be then

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Dating section …

The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

And many many more …

2.. Relationships

Once you have your good man, this part of the membership area will help you make sure that you keep him

Remember your old issues haven’t gone away, they will be waiting to come to the surface at the first opportunity.

I take you by the hand to resolve any of those past issues that could sabotage your new relationship in this section.

As well as helping you understand much more than you ever did before about the subtle art of communication in relationships.

For instance, I will help you understand the 4 most important aspects in ANY “love” relationships.

These are …

Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

I will help you get these four right, and I guarantee you, when you understand these four, YOU will NEVER have to struggle in ANY relationship with ANYONE ever again.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries.

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The I’m not enough story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth.

Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships & in life,

… and much much more.

3.. Health

Specifically, how our relationship issues affect our health.

(and they do in really specific ways)

And more importantly what we can do at the practical level to resolve them.

This is where you will find an absolute gold mine of knowledge (most of which you’ve probably never heard before) along with my own personal experience of successfully working with thousands of men, women and children with health issues over the last 12 years and more.

And what’s more, all of this costs around the same as some of the old dating advice membership sites.

If you have ANY health issues or body image issues that hold you back from feeling confident in meeting your new man, you will find all the solutions here in this health section

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, feeling pushed out, water retention, depression, separation/skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course,  I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

Click on The Link Below To Find Out More

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

Do you go scanning other woman’s profiles on the dating sites?

Go on admit it

It’s a natural thing for a woman to do, for woman’s identity is really important to her:

• I’m not as pretty as her
• I’m not as tall as her
• I’m not as clever
• She’s much more interesting than I am
• My profile is boring compared to hers.

Sound familiar?

Comparing ourselves to others seems to be ingrained in us as children in the west. It’s almost woven into the fabric of society.

But every time we compare ourselves to anyone else in a negative way we are just beating up on ourselves.

And human beings are extremely good at doing that already. We don’t need any more excuses to do a number on ourselves.

The comparison game in life is tough enough, but it ramps up a notch or two, when a woman is in “competition” with other women for a new man. Then it can get downright CRAZY!

Beating up on herself is the last thing any woman who’s struggling to feel good about herself wants to be doing, particularly if she’s no man in her life and wants to attract one!

A client of mine recently told me that she had hundreds of messages on the dating sites, but was so busy looking at the other women’s profiles and comparing herself to them, that she simply wasn’t answering the deluge of messages from men.

She didn’t answer the inboxes. She deleted most of them!

Most women worry about what other women are thinking about them.

But the truth is that the other women are too busy worrying about what other women are thinking of them to be thinking about you!

It’s a crazy game.

I’ve worked with countless women over the years who were kind, caring, with lovely personalities, some had even been blessed with stunning good looks, and yet they were all still comparing themselves to other women.

Whoever told them that story that they weren’t good enough, or not enough was wrong. It’s all lies, it’s all wrong!

It’s really time to become aware of your gifts, to recognise who you are, what you bring to this world for yourself, your friends, your family, your work colleagues, and to let go of this comparison game, because the truth is that everyone else is fearing being compared as well.

Building the wall one judgement at a time

The truth is when you are looking for a good man to fall in love with, this comparison, judging, beating up on yourself game is building a wall between you and the guy you’re looking for.

It’s like moving into a new house and wanting to meet and become friends with your new neighbour.

Imagine how impossible that would be if you started to build a wall in the boundary between your two houses, every day adding some more bricks to your wall, then wondering why you can’t connect with your new neighbour!

That would be crazy wouldn’t it!

Just because we can’t see our personal “energetic wall” it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.

I can promise you that it does.

I want to help you knock down the inner judgement/comparison wall piece by piece.

In life we put up these walls to keep us safe, to keep people out for one reason or another, but in doing so we also keep ourselves in.

For most people this is the way that we have been brought up and almost by osmosis got sucked into the destructive judgement story.

Eventually the walls become the internal prison you’re now stuck inside, locking out at all the good things that you want on the other side – yes, including that good man.

It’s such nonsense to be wasting our valuable life in self-judgement or fear of being judged.

Here’s a little exercise that will help you to start letting this stuff go.

Choose a favourite location where you can do some people watching: sitting outside a nice cafe, a shopping mall perhaps, the gym, railway stations, an airport.

Wherever is practical for you.

It’s best to do this on your own, but at the very least, don’t invite any negative friends along when you try this exercise.

I don’t like rules but I’d prefer you to abide by my 2 people watching rules:

Rule 1

Set your intention before you start. You’re just going to “watch” WITHOUT judgement, without criticism.

I want you to see how long you last before judgements and comparisons start creeping into your head. You might find yourself reacting to how the people are dressed, how they look, how they walk, who they’re with, how they talk etc etc.

Rule 2

As soon as you catch yourself judging someone else in a negative way, immediately say to yourself.

Hello, there’s a part of me judging myself today, because if there wasn’t a part of me judging myself then I wouldn’t be able to judge this person.

I now honour this judgmental part of myself.

The truth is this:

• when we judge another human being, we’re judging ourselves,
• when we criticize another person, we’re criticizing ourselves,
• when we put another person down, we’re putting ourselves down,

Every single time!

People tell you more about themselves by how they talk about other people and the words that they are using, because really this is how they feel about themselves.

The words we choose reflect how we really feel about ourselves.

It’s all part of the inner comparison/internal judgement game that humans habitually play.

Please recognise that:

• you will never run out of people to compare yourself with,
• you will always find someone, in any area of life, who is better than you in some way.

There will always be someone better at music, drama, sport, cooking etc. than you.

There will always be someone better looking, with a more toned body. There’ll even be someone more caring etc.

That’s just life, there is always someone better.

And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be the best you can be, there’s also nothing wrong with acknowledging that someone is better than you are at something, and even praising them for it.

If I’m in the gym and catch myself comparing myself to other guys who are in better shape (whether they’re 40 years younger than me or not lol!) I say (in my best Scottish accent, of course),

“Oh hello the judge is out to play today is it?”

As soon as I hear that old train wreck of negative comparison in my head, I reframe it by saying something positive like this,

“I have massive respect for every fellow member in this gym right now, all of whom are willing to put in the time and effort to be the best version of themselves that they can be.

And i’m proud to be one of them.” 

How awesome is it for me to be part of this membership, to feel connected to this group of people in this moment in time, just by letting go of my internal critique?

For in this moment, I am now in a place of zero resistance and zero comparison.

Zero resistance and zero comparison is our natural state.

I really want to help you “soften” how you feel about yourself and others in this comparison game that no one wins.

Why would any guy choose you while you are busy comparing yourself (in a negative way) to other women?

You might as well wave a flag at him that says, choose the other woman, she’s better than me.

Play with the people watching awareness exercise. Soften how you feel in the comparison game.

It’s just a form of self-punishment. That’s all it is!

When you acknowledge who you are, when you honour the true essence of who you are, you are now the girl the guy wants to choose. Your wall is down.

Acknowledge and honour other human beings for who they are. Admire their gifts, their beauty, their intelligence, their creativity.

If I’m walking past a guy in the gym who looks good in my eyes, I will tell him, “Good shape man” and no matter how big or threatening he appears, he’ll immediately soften and smile. “Thanks man, really appreciate that.”

We are all little children inside who want to feel good.

The more you acknowledge and honour yourself from the inside out, the less you’ll get stuck in the comparing game.

Comparing oneself to someone else is great way to disconnect from other people. See for yourself.

Try it the other way.

The next time you’re feeling good about yourself for any reason, notice how everyone around you seems to be nicer all of a sudden.

Coincidence? Maybe not.

Disconnection from yourself and ANYONE else is enough to put the wall up between you and the guy you’re looking for.

Just like we can’t selectively lose weight and lose the fat from just one area of our body, we can’t shut ANYONE out without it affecting EVERY area of our life in some way.

Look for ANY areas of your life where you’re shutting people out.

If there are people in your past who’ve caused you pain, you don’t have to forgive and love them, but just soften how you feel about what happened back then and how you feel in the present moment.

If there are people in your life that you find “difficult”, notice something positive about them, then let them know how much you respect or admire them for that.

Or let them go

The better you feel about yourself, the quicker that wall will come down so you can meet that guy

Don’t believe me? Try these techniques and see.

——————————

But if you are looking for even more benefit than I can offer here, then I would love you to join me as an   “Inside Dater”

Where YOU will take the fast track to meeting the man of your dreams.

Where you can feast on an abundance of personal “practical” videos from myself in the 3 most important areas of dating …

Dating – Relationships & Health

Working with thousands of people over the last 15 years and more I have learned that it’s MASSIVELY important as human beings that we feel as though we belong.

You are literally just a mouse click away from being able to benefit from the life changing content at

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

1.. Dating

How to attract a GOOD MAN in the shortest possible time.

And by taking the simple steps that I have laid out for you in a series of videos, I will also help you become the fun, confident woman who’s irresistible to any man!

How much fun will your dating be then

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Dating section …

The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

And many many more …

2.. Relationships

Once you have your good man, this part of the membership area will help you make sure that you keep him

Remember your old issues haven’t gone away, they will be waiting to come to the surface at the first opportunity.

I take you by the hand to resolve any of those past issues that could sabotage your new relationship in this section.

As well as helping you understand much more than you ever did before about the subtle art of communication in relationships.

For instance, I will help you understand the 4 most important aspects in ANY “love” relationships.

These are …

Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

I will help you get these four right, and I guarantee you, when you understand these four, YOU will NEVER have to struggle in ANY relationship with ANYONE ever again.

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries.

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The I’m not enough story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth.

Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships & in life and much much more!

3.. Health

Specifically, how our relationship issues affect our health.

(and they do in really specific ways)

And more importantly what we can do at the practical level to resolve them.

This is where you will find an absolute gold mine of knowledge (most of which you’ve probably never heard before) along with my own personal experience of successfully working with thousands of men, women and children with health issues over the last 12 years and more.

And what’s more, all of this costs around the same as some of the old dating advice membership sites.

If you have ANY health issues or body image issues that hold you back from feeling confident in meeting your new man, you will find all the solutions here in this health section

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, feeling pushed out, water retention, depression, separation/skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course, I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

Click on The Link Below To Find Out More

www.datinginsidesecrets.com

I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

© Bill Tucker & Dating Inside Secrets 2019

What will bring you the quickest result when it comes to dating?

How long have you been stuck in the frustration and self judgement of waiting for “the one” to appear in your life.

I get it, I spent many years suffering the same frustration that you feel now. I also beat up on myself for not having enough willpower to stick it out, having to dip in and out of the dating game when I had enough of a beating.

I didn’t realise way back then, that it wasn’t the lack of willpower that was holding me back.

What was doing a number on me was my lack of commitment.

Many years before, I had also suffered massive self judgement about everything including my lack of willpower, in not being able to stop drinking alcoholically for 20 years.

Even though I used to lift weights competitively and certainly didn’t lack either willpower or commitment back then.

I believed that I couldn’t stick at the dating game, or even enjoy the journey because I lacked willpower. 

But I was totally wrong!

Here’s why …

Willpower is in the “thinking” realm and strangely enough takes up a lot of energy.

It’s future based, and the mind doesn’t handle future tense very well.

This is where anxiety and overwhelm come from, almost like this persistent fear of the unknown.

The fear of something bad coming towards you.

On the subject of using willpower to change our life for the better. New years resolutions are the perfect example of, why NOT to use it.

 How hard are those New Years resolutions to keep up and achieve.

There’s a serious flaw in the plan you know!

For as soon as we try and use willpower, there are two demons that are guaranteed to come knocking on the door.

Fear of failing and resistance.

And how many times have those two kept you from moving forward in life.

Trying to get into the “love attraction” zone is no different from New Years resolutions.

Without the alcohol of course

Willpower is “thinking,” commitment is “doing.”

And commitment wins over thinking every single time!

Now some people say, but Bill, I need willpower to get to the doing.

Well, not exactly!

We do need to be “willing” to get to the doing, absolutely, and we also need to set our intention, for sure!

But willpower is tame by comparison and just leads to more self judgement when that man still hasn’t shown up when you expected. True?

Every day, commit to doing something that takes you a step closer to that man of your dreams!

It’s the committing that changes our present, our future, AND also re-writes our past conditioning.

Let me explain …

We have negative habits that seem to be ingrained in us through our past experiences, all the way back to the first 6 years of life while we were still in subconscious mind.

We were just like a big sponge soaking up everything in our environment, and modeling what was going on, even modeling the stuff that we didn’t want to and the stuff that’s bad.

This is when we formed our beliefs and perceptions about  who we were, how we felt about ourselves, how well or not we fitted in or belonged, and of course, ending up in the present day judgements & fears about ourself and others.

Now most of the beliefs we took on back then were dysfunctional, they never belonged to us in the first place and certainly didn’t and don’t serve us now.

This is where all the negative self talk comes from, when all you want to do is get ready to meet that new man.

What’s the point, it will never work anyway. I’m not good enough for any man. Look what happened before. I’m a failure in love. blah blah blah!

And the truth is, the little voice (or big voice) in the back of the head is talking as much nonsense as the drunk at the bar.

But that train wreck in your head can be very convincing & persistent!

As soon as we mention the word “change,” fear and resistance are going to be banging on the door.

Expect it, acknowledge it. Just as you would a child who is desperately trying to get your attention.

It is only when we enter into the commitment part (the doing) part that we start to acknowledge ourself and feel as though we are moving forward.

This is so, so important. It’s a game changer!

Compare willpower (fear, resistance & judgement) to commitment (doing)

The doing part is the ONLY time when we have an opportunity to praise ourself and feel good about ourself.

Try keeping something up when you are busy judging yourself in a negative way. Like losing weight for instance by using willpower alone.

The judgement fiends are almost queuing up, waiting, almost willing you to devour that very first mouthful of forbidden food before it sneaks past your lips.

When we start exercising, even though there may be judgement initially, because our body can’t manage what our head tells us we can, If we cut ourselves some slack, we now have the opportunity to praise ourselves and feel good about our tentative “doing” achievements.

As human beings we are designed to be “doing” rather than thinking and talking about what we are “going to do.”

I can assure you, the world has no use for any more armchair experts!

We have two main drivers in life when it comes to change.

Towards pleasure or away from pain.

Which one are you coming from?

The pain of being alone, or the eager anticipation of being in love with your new man.

For most people it’s getting away from the pain that’s the strongest driver, but the good news is, it matters not which one you are coming from.

Taking action is taking action, and the end result is the same.

Sometimes though when we are driven by pleasure, the internal judge and deserving (or not) sticks its little head above the parapet.

But the bottom line is, there’s less fear, resistance and judgement when you come from a place of commitment than from trying to tough it out using willpower.

And I guess that if willpower was your superpower, you would have already joined the Marines.

Every day, commit to doing something that takes you a step closer to that man of your dreams!

Set your intention of how you want to feel when you are with your new guy. Write down the specifics and fine tune as you go along, but of course be open to him showing up in an unexpected way, and maybe even be a little bit different from  the guys you normally go out with.

Keep the door open!

Be open to the possibilities and get excited about how you’ll feel when he shows up. Soak up those good feelings for all you are worth, just for the sake of feeling good.

This is the beautiful energy that you are sending out as your love attraction signal.

After 21 days, of commitment (doing) the subconscious mind now imprints your doing as a habit.

It now gets easier and easier to keep on committing, because by now, you will feel so much better about yourself and even the discipline that you have used, and are using becomes more and more enjoyable.

Commitment, consistency and feeling good about yourself are essential keys in getting what you want.

To be in the arms of that man of your dreams!

I know that you deserve all of this and more.

Turn it into an adventure and enjoy the journey of the new you!

Remember …

Every day, commit to doing something that takes you a step closer to that man of your dreams!

So, what are you committing to do right now?

Get in touch and let me know.

I’m excited to find out where YOU are on your journey

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Dating – Relationships & Health

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1.. Dating

How to attract a GOOD MAN in the shortest possible time.

And by taking the simple steps that I have laid out for you in a series of videos, I will also help you become the fun, confident woman who’s irresistible to any man!

How much fun will your dating be then

Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Dating section …

The self judgement that stops that guy coming close.

No man will like me.

Feeling used in relationships.

Are your trust issues getting in the way of love.

Fear of rejection/separation/abandonment.

Frustration/disappointment in love.

Self sabotage in dating.

Are your past relationship/failures holding you back from finding love.

The 4 biggies in relationships … Trust-Communication-Respect-Passion.

There’s no one out there for me.

The differences between men and women.

Feeling good about yourself is the key that opens the door to let that man walk through.

And many many more …

2.. Relationships

Once you have your good man, this part of the membership area will help you make sure that you keep him

Remember your old issues haven’t gone away, they will be waiting to come to the surface at the first opportunity.

I take you by the hand to resolve any of those past issues that could sabotage your new relationship in this section.

As well as helping you understand much more than you ever did before about the subtle art of communication in relationships.

For instance, I will help you understand the 4 most important aspects in ANY “love” relationships.

These are …

Communication – Trust – Respect – Passion

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Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in the Relationship section …

Developing healthy boundaries.

Attracting guys who lack emotional maturity.

The I’m not enough story.

Fear of rejection.

Self judgement.

Trust issues.

Can’t let go of my ex.

Fear of intimacy.

Self worth, Judgement and taking things personally.

Fear in relationships & in life.

… and much much more.

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(and they do in really specific ways)

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Here’s a small sample of the transformational videos in this section …

Issues like … IBS, digestive issues, allergies, phobias, feeling pushed out, water retention, depression, separation/skin issues, thrush, tiredness/exhaustion, cystitis, headaches, migraines and many, many more.

And of course,  I will be guiding you in ALL of these videos with practical solutions to resolve what you are truly ready to let go of.

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I look forward to connecting with you very, very soon

Bill Tucker x

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